Sex Coaching is More Common than you Might Think.  Here’s the scoop on what can happen when working with a professional for support.

With the increase of sex positivity in today’s world, seeking support from a sex coach is rapidly becoming more accessible.  With shows like Love, Sex and Goop coming out on mainstream platforms, hiring a sex and intimacy coach has gained popularity in a big way over the last few years. 

Why hire a Sex Coach?

Sex coaching can explore a wide range of topics – From sex education, to overcoming intimacy blocks, improving body image, building tools to negotiate desires, and finding more freedom in one’s authentic sexual expression.  

Some common things that people might bring to a sex coach are:

• Performance anxiety
• Working with Erectile Dysfunction or Premature Ejaculation 
• Struggling with low desire
• Changes to sexual pleasure after surgery/childbirth
• Communicating and discerning healthy boundaries
• Lack of intimacy or touch in long term relationships
• Painful sex or genital numbness
• Feeling comfortable with sex after traumatic or difficult experiences (In cases of acute trauma working in tandem with a therapist may be recommended) 
• Difficulty talking about sex with partners 
• Healing from shame and the impacts on body image, dating or sexual expression
• Unfulfilling sexual or intimate experiences (You sense there MUST be more) 
• Challenges with pornography 
• Expanding knowledge of BDSM/kink. 
• Exploring a queer or emerging gender identity 

Building Rapport and Establishing Trust

People often report that before stepping into session space they might feel nervous or have some butterflies.  This is totally normal!  Each session is designed to work at your pace, tailored to your unique learning zone.  Each step we take in the work is a collaboration. 

At the very beginning I might suggest some simple practices to help you feel more relaxed, which coincidentally you can also use at home to feel more grounded with partners and loved ones!   

Imagine stepping into a space where all of you is welcome.  In session space sex can be talked about openly and candidly.  I’ve designed my sessions to be a safe haven where you can share what’s real for you.  Cool fact – Our muscle for feeling more comfortable talking about sex grows the more we use it.  (Check out my other article on building sex positivity here.)

Assessment and Goal Setting

I’ll do an assessment to gain insights into a client’s sexual history, challenges, and visions for our work together. This is your place to explore what you want your relationship to sex, intimacy and your body to look like.  If you don’t know what your goals are yet, but have a strong call to the work, don’t worry, I’m happy to help you get more clear.  

Coaching vs Sex Therapy – 

Therapy is powerful work, often directed at healing what’s happened in the past.  A therapist might explore deeper into your “why” for certains ways of being in the world.  A therapist is better suited to support people through ongoing mental health challenges.  

Coaching is future focused and directed by painting a picture of where you want to go.  It aims on creating tangible strategies to support you in moving towards your goals.  

Many of my clients have had a great foundation in working with therapists and are looking to make a next step.  They are  ready to make proactive changes in their world.  

In a coaching session we focus on a combination of somatic work, embodied sex education and relationship tools.  We also uncover any belief blocks that might be getting in the way of you kicking butt on moving towards your vision.  

Therapy and coaching are both great for their own reasons.  If I sense a client is working with acute trauma, mental health challenges or addiction I may offer them some referrals or suggest working in tandem with a therapist.  

Education and Skill-Building

Once there’s a clear understanding of the client’s needs, a sex coach will support through education and skill-building practices to empower them in moving towards their goal. 

From learning about pleasure, mastering communication strategies, to understanding more about desire and attraction, each session is tailored to address the client’s unique concerns and vision.  

Communication and Relationship Dynamics

Effective communication lies at the heart of satisfying sexual experiences and thriving relationships. Tools are explored for naming desire, addressing conflicts, and bringing voice and choice back online.  Through role-playing exercises, active listening techniques, and constructive feedback, clients will learn to express their needs and desires with confidence and compassion.

Sexological Bodywork

“Sexological Bodywork® is a body-based educational modality that supports individuals, couples, and groups to learn to direct their erotic development and to deepen their erotic wellbeing and embodiment”

Sexological bodywork is a modality that supports client in moving emotions that can be stored in the body and pelvis.  Clients are able to map pleasure, re-sensitize the body, and create a felt sense of using voice and choice.  Breath, sound, movement, awareness, and client directed, one-way touch can be used.  

Conclusion: Embracing Sexual Empowerment

Working with a sex coach can be a massive game changer in empowerment, self-discovery, and healing blocks to intimacy. It’s a specialized container for you to connect more deeply with your body and provide practical education.  Sex coaches can support individuals and couples to embrace their sexuality with confidence. 

 You can absolutely create a more fulfilling and satisfying erotic life!

Curious to learn more?  Book a Discovery Call with Maxine